Well, today I've finished my Health and Social Care course after an intense three weeks, and you know something? I feel proud of myself. Sure, when I first started the course it was all very new to me but as the course progressed I started to get the hang of it and I really enjoyed learning new things. Some of the units we covered were rather sensitive such as forms of abuse along with dementia. The latter was kinda too close to home because sadly my grandad suffers from dementia, so you can just imagine how slightly depressing it was for me. But then again it's good to understand these kind of serious topics. At least I have some more understanding.
Last week was kinda murder because since it was the last week of the course Royon, my tutor, decided to speed things up just a little bit. He basically said he wasn't stopping for anyone to catch up if we had a day off or if we had appointments during the morning - he insisted the best way was to get someone to help you catch up on the work you've missed. That happened to me because on Wednesday morning I had an appointment at the Job Centre (which is something I can't miss) and as soon as I came into the classroom, Royon handed me my workbook and told me that everyone was on the last page so I had to ask someone to help me out because we were starting a new unit that day. Eventually someone did help me and I was up to speed with things.
I gotta admit last week I got a bit worried about the way things were speeding up and as a result I felt really tired. Also, we had this workbook that was given to us at the start of the course (to work on while we're at home) that I hadn't really touched. So that had to be completed as well as some minor corrections to my portfolio folder. In the end what I done was on Thursday and Friday last week I arrived half an hour early before class started so I could get more work done. And what kinda helped was one of my friends had coffee with me after class and she helped me with the things I wanted help with in terms of researching information.
Overall it was good. I enjoyed taking part in class discussions and I made a few friends from the course too. The first couple of days I really wasn't talking to anyone there - just small talk - but what really helped was I talked to some people more and more and that way I became friends with them. There were the occasional people who kept themselves to themselves so I didn't really interact with them, bu that's bound to happen. Personally I prefer to get to know people as it can be fun. I'm still shy and nervous but it doesn't stop me from interacting - hell, when I was a teenager I was too scared to open up to people in school and out of school so I was extremely quiet. But I guess the more you get older, the more you learn about other people by actually talking to them.
Right now my plans is to relax for a while before deciding what plan of action to take next. Some people did came in during the length of the course to talk about their business as well as what courses/jobs they offer in the Health and Social Care sector. So there's two people who I want to contact and see what mu options are. As I want to go into working with children I can either go for an apprenticeship or do a Childcare Level 2 or 3 course.. With the apprenticeships the wage is really low because you're in a workplace while going to college one day a week - plus, I have to find one that's suitable for 25 and over because most of the apprenticeships are targeted for 16 to 24. On the other hand if I do a Chilldcare course then I believe I'll be put into a workplace while I'm studying, but the difference is you get rather good pay.
Childcare is my first priority and working in a care home is just another option to fall back on. Then again my parents have told me I wouldn't enjoy working in a care home simply because in their opinion I "haven't got the stomach" to do some difficult tasks of helping elderly people clean up after themselves and other things like that. That's true in some way, however I don't know if care workers do help with people going to toilet. I do know a couple of things you have to do such as bathing them and moving them (with the appropriate equipment) but overall it's not your job to do everything for them because it will take away their human rights/dignity as well as denying them the right to choose and being independent.
But there are a hell of a lot of things you can do in Health and Social Care and ultimately the sector offers more job opportunities. So yeah, I'll be resting for this week, just doing stuff that I enjoy and basically putting myself first. After all, ever since last month I've been incredibly busy after doing two courses back to back so I deserve a break. But next week I'm gonna try and keep the ball rolling by contacting those two companies to find out my options.
I want to get into the habit of writing again due to the fact I haven't worked on my anime story for quite a few months now. I haven't forgotten about it, just that sometimes life gets in the way if you know what I mean. Next month I want to do a small writing project and yes, it's something similar to the the 750 words a day challenge I done back in March of this year. I'm thinking of not focusing on Red vs Blue but my own characters this time.
Also, I've been going to the cinema just recently. I've seen Ghostbusters, Finding Dory, Star Trek Beyond and Suicide Squad and I've enjoyed all four. I haven't really hung out with my friends due to how busy I've been on the course just recently, but I'm seeing them hopefully this Friday - I can't wait to have a drink while singing my heart out to karaoke
Tomorrow I'm gonna have lunch with Andy (another friend who I met on the Recro course last month) and we're going to the park to have it. Because we were both doing separate courses at Learn Direct sometimes we went to a cafe to get some lunch and spend half an hour with each other. Andy's a cool guy and I have nothing but respect for him. It's nice to be friends with someone who's older than you.
Over the weekend dad managed to set up my xbox one for me and I've been playing some games on it, mostly Plague Inc and Halo: The Master Chief Collection. There was a custom scenario on Plague Inc called Jealously and I just had to play it as it sounded interesting. I was in a fit on giggles when I read the information before playing - it said something like "Jealously will only affect girls in this scenario because in real life women are more jealous in real life than men. Not to sound sexist/offensive or anything, but that's just it." When it came to the MC Collection I finished Crow's Nest in the Halo 3 campaign and that was it basically. I admit I did smile while playing it because I managed to activate my cloaking device, sneaked past some Grunts as well as Brute bodygurads and assassinated the Brute Chieftain (who was armed with a fuel rod) before running away to hide to surprise the rest of my enemies and then arming the bomb. The first attempt ended badly as I punched the Chieftain in the back and all he done was turned my way and by then my cloak was depleted so I lobbed a few grenades while shooting/avoiding the blasts coming my way. The fuel rod canon wasn't what killed me, it was the Brute Shots that did. But I decided to try again and it was my first time properly assassinating a Chieftain.
Oh, and you know in my last journal I talked about Adam, the dickhead I foolishly had a crush on? Well, I have some updates on that matter.
Two weeks ago when we had that disagreement in which I "tarnished" his opinion of me due to my beliefs we didn't speak for two days. I for one didn't bother getting in contact with him as I said what I wanted to say to him on that night and there was nothing left to say to him. At the time my mum insisted I should block him right away but I told mum I'd only resort to blocking if he started on me again.Anyway that weekend on my Moodtrack app, I posted "I really don't know how to feel just recently. One one hand I'm proud of myself for sticking to my guns. While on the other hand I'm consumed with doubt and anger towards everyone else as well as the world."
And then out of the blue, he commented, saying "Why are you angry?"
Sure, maybe he didn't know what the fuck I was on about, but at that moment I found myself feeling angry at him - mostly for what he done to me. Also I didn't want to dignify him with an answer because it's best to keep quiet at times and I felt like I no longer trusted him. So what I done was deleted his comment and blocked him on the mood app. I didn't stop there; I also deleted and blocked his number on my phone (so he can't call, text or talk to me on WhatsApp) as well as my Skype. I gave him absolutely no warning beforehand because a) I lost all respect for him and I wanted him out of my life for good and b) it's best if I keep my distance from him even if it means running in the opposite direction.
I really thought it would be the end of that, but nope he's now resorting to pestering me in other ways and I don't appreciate his 'stalking' at all. And no, I haven't unblocked him if that's what some of you may be thinking at this moment in time.
You see, there's a major flaw I've recently discovered of the Moodtrack app, one that I'm seriously not happy about for bloody good reasons. You can block a person on there and by doing that they are not able to comment on your posts at all. However there are two problems: 1) even though they're blocked they can still check out your page/all your posts (a bit like on here) and 2) they can still 'heart' your posts despite being blocked. Their heart system is the same as a Facebook like whenever you post something/a mood entry.
I have every reason to believe that he has realised I have blocked him from all my devices and he's not too happy with what I've done and now he might be wanting to get his own back on me. I could be wrong, but I've learned what a snake he can be. That, and what a controlling bastard he can be. Seriously, I don't know what I saw in that creep anyway, especially when he said things like "If you're serious about wanting to be mine I want you to dress like you mean business" and other shit like that. And don't get me started on contraception - he gave me the choice of going on the pill or him wearing condoms, so I decided to go with the latter because I have no reason to be on the pill. I'm not sexually active and I have no problems with my periods. At first he agreed with my decision, but a few days later he changed his mind and insisted I should go on the pill because (and I'm sorry for being crude or that it's too much information) he wanted to cum inside me without no barriers between us.
I'm sorry but I refuse to have sex with a man without a condom. The pill does protect you from pregnancy but it doesn't protect you from STDs. And because he's had sex in the past who knows if he has caught something, especially if he doesn't wear a condom. Overall I don't want to catch a STD, nobody does. That's why I would prefer a man to wear protection if and when I do find myself having sex for the first time. And if he doesn't like wearing condoms for whatever reason I still won't have sex with him. The only time I'll have unprotected sex is if the man and I were in a long term relationship in which we're serious about one another, or if I'm married. Other than that, I'm not changing my opinion for any man anytime soon.
But I digress. Back to what I was saying before I rambled about safe sex and whatnot. I've noticed that since this weekend he has hearted/liked some of my moods/posts, especially when I'm not feeling so good emotionally. The first mood he liked was something really mundane e.g. I mentioned how crap I was at Plague Inc after a long while of not playing the xbox one and that I should give it a rest as the more I was losing the more disappointed I become. When he hearted it I was confused because I thought I made it clear that I didn't want anything to do with him hence why I blocked him on the app. I seriously thought he would back off for good.
And because yesterday and also this morning I've struggled with my emotions, especially me being a virgin and not trusting men when it comes to relationships/the fear of being single for the rest of my life. And a few hours ago I was in a bit of a dark mood/having negative thoughts and kinda hating myself, in a weak moment I posted this:
"Can waiting for the right person to lose your virginity to damages your psyche and destroys your self esteem? Because I'm beginning to think that. I'm beginning to think I have unintentionally hurt myself for still being a virgin in my late 20s..."
Needless to say he hearted it and it began clear to me that he was delighting in my suffering despite the fact he couldn't verbally say anything to me. And me checking out his mood (that he posted 5 minutes after hearting mine) proved my theory to be kinda right. He mentioned how often he wanted to be the bad guy and that he could use or take people for granted. Also he finds himself questioning how good he really was because being blunt and honest hurt people's feelings, but he knows that's he a good person and that he also regrets not being a douchebag.
Now reading that triggered off the alarm bells in my head and I automatically told mum. She wasn't happy with me posting my private business on 'social media' (when really it's a phone app where you're encouraged to post how you feel and seek/give advice - there are worse posts that other people post such as some of them wanting to commit suicide, their parents giving them a hard time, etc). Mum says when I'm saying things like my virginity and my love life (when in reality it doesn't exist at all) I'm only spurring him on and in a way drawing him onto me for no reason at all.
I get her opinion and I do see what she's saying. She wants me to be sensible only because she cares about me like a parent should do. But why should I censor myself in a small way? Am I not free to express myself regardless of how good or bad I'm feeling?
But then again mum did raise a good point. She told me "For all you know he can be a stalker in real life." I have no reason to question her judgement because everything what she said about him so far was right. He's certainly not a person worth knowing. I'm ten times better than him. He's just the shit that sticks to my shoe, nothing more. I've been told many times for the past few weeks not to let anyone put me down because I deserve better.
So after mulling over what mum told me, I decided to take action. First of all, in class I emailed the app support team and made a complaint, asking is there any way that he can be blocked from my page for good and not heart my posts at all. Then I done a little research online for some ways about changing negative thinking and one of the websites inspired me. Their suggestion was to keep a thought journal to keep note of my negative thinking on a regular basis and to also start a gratitude/positive things about you journal. So after the class was wrapped up I popped into the nearest supermarket and bought myself two notebooks.
That way I can freely express myself and I can look back on it as personal growth or something like that. And the beauty of it is that nobody can look at it nor am I drawing unwanted people on me. In the Recro course we did talk about different types of business such as you should mind your business and not let anyone else mind your business for you because it has nothing to do with them. And if you're more focused on other people's business rather than your own that creates an imbalance, thus leading to jealously from comparing yourself to others as well as other negative emotions/thinking.
As for the Moodtrack app I have abandoned my account and made myself a new one. A fresh start is always good, right? I try my best to be positive on there and cut down on the negativity - at least when I do feel negative then I can save that for my notebook.
Small changes does make a big difference. That's what I should remember, especially in bad times.